Telling your parents may seem like the hardest step when you're planning to study abroad. But, it’s important to let them know as early as possible about your university plans. They may have lots of questions or just say no to the idea straight away. It’s crucial to speak to them as early as possible so you have as much time to iron out any issues that may arise.
So, what’s the best way to tell your parents? We've got a step-by-step plan that you can use.
Outline your ambition and goals
No two international students have the same reasons for studying abroad. Every student has their own journey and goals. Letting your parents know exactly why you want to leave and pursue a particular degree is a great first conversation to have. By doing so, you are letting your parents know that there are good reasons for you making this big decision and that it’s not a decision you made quickly.
To do this, consider why you want to study abroad. There are many benefits to obtaining your degree in another country. Take time to discover which of them appeals to you the most and make this clear.
If you need some more information on what studying abroad takes, have a look at our checklist.
Do your research
When looking into going to university, whether that’s somewhere in your home country or abroad, you'll have a lot of questions. For that reason, many prospective students do a lot of research into the process of applying to university, their study destination, and what universities/courses they would like to know more about.
When you tell your parents about your desire to study abroad, they will likely have just as many questions. By making sure that you have all the information you need, you will be able to answer these questions and put their mind at ease for when they raise potential concerns.
Discuss your options
Depending on your circumstances, you may need to have one or two alternative plans about where and what you will study. Whether you can’t move to a country so far away or it won’t work out for you financially, it’s great for both you and your parents to give yourself options.
This may be having several universities or courses that you would love to attend or being flexible about your time scale.
Perhaps studying in a different country than originally planned is cheaper, or you are needed at home for another year. Having options and different plans should your ideal situation not be possible is a great way to let your parents know that you are willing to adjust if you need to.
Be ready for discussion and compromise
If your parents decide that your original plan isn’t going to work, it might be easy to feel a bit deflated. However, it’s important to remember that this decision affects them too.
There is the emotional toll it can take on them. It’s difficult to imagine loved ones moving away for any of us, let alone when you’re a parent discussing your child moving to another country for an extended period.
However, something that also needs to be discussed is the financial burden that travelling abroad can have. If you are relying on your parents to fund some, or all your studies, you must take their opinions and decisions into account.
This may not mean that studying abroad is no longer an option, just that you need to tweak your plans so that they are more parent friendly.
Don’t forget that you can explore your finance options, including applying for a scholarship.
Consult a professional
Maybe you are just looking for more information before deciding. Perhaps you want all the answers before telling your parents or don’t have some of the information they need. If this is the case finding the right support can be the difference between attending your ideal university abroad and not going.
This is especially the case when your parents are part of the decision-making process. Speaking to an adviser at a particular university or going somewhere that gives more rounded advice means that your parents can ask the questions they have. They can get the answers they need to know how your decision to study abroad will benefit you.
Once you’ve decided to go to university abroad, it can be quite liberating to think about what you will learn and get up to in your chosen destination. By comparison, telling your parents may fill you with dread. While this may be the case, it’s vital to have this conversation.
By doing so, you can set your plans in motion and have their support with the rest of the process.
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